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The week is before us - like the coffee pot - waiting to brew. Making it good is a matter of choice, luck, creativity, patience and acceptance of the outcome.

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Monday, June 12, 2006

My old friend, Visor

Hanging on to old stuff - I dearly love my old Visor Platinum PDA. But it is outmoded. I cannot back it up on my current notebook computer. I am keeping a big old desktop, monitor and keyboard just for backup purposes. It makes no sense.
Why do we cling to favorite old things so tenaciously?
  • The item has sentimental value
  • We have invested a tremendous amount of time and energy into the item
  • We would feel guilty if we let it go
  • We have become accustomed to utilizing it every day
  • We get comfort from the old thing
  • We paid a lot for it
  • It is too much trouble to find it/get it out/unload it/unpack it/get rid of it
  • We should keep it because someone dear gave it to us
  • etc., etc.

What are some of the ways we can change our limiting ways of thinking about these reasons for clinging to old things?
  • Find ways to record the item. Take a picture of it or write a journal entry about it. Write a gratitude letter to the giver; either send it or not.
  • Find reasons that you have "gotten your money's worth from the item," so that you can then let it go in favor of something more useful.
  • Affirming yourself is a way to neutralize guilt. Affirm the ways that you have honored the giver or the gift. Forgive yourself for whatever is unnaturally coloring your feelings about the item.
  • Find an effective substitute(s) for the item's function. Think creatively about what else might do the job just as well or better.
  • Ask yourself what is so comforting about the item. Would other things substitute for what is comforting about the item?
  • Think about what you might be losing by hanging on to an item that has become less valuable. Have you received a good return on your original investment?
  • Tell yourself, "Just DO IT!" Or ask yourself, "How do you eat an elephant; one bite at a time."
  • Reverse roles: Ask yourself whether you require that people keep your gifts forever. In other words, aren't true gifts given out without strings attached? The giver has probably let go of the outcome (unreasonable demands attached) of their gift long ago.

Now, what will I do about my friend?

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References on Spirituality -- Favorites from my old collection

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  • "A World Waiting To Be Born: Civility Rediscovered" by M. Scott Peck. Simon and Schuster, 1993
  • "Chicken Soup For the Unsinkable Soul" by Canfield, Hansen and McNamara. Health Communications, 1999
  • "Compassion in Action: Setting Out On the Path of Service" by Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush. Bell Tower Pub., 1992
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  • "Finding Values That Work: The Search For Fulfillment" by Brian O'Connell. Walker & Co., 1978
  • "Fire in the Soul" by Joan Borysenko. Warner Books, 1993
  • "Further Along the Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. Simon and Schuster, 1993
  • "Guilt Is the Teacher, Love Is the Lesson" by Joan Borysenko. Warner Books, 1990
  • "Inner Simplicity: 100 Ways To Regain Peace and Nourish the Soul" by Elaine St. James. Hyperion, 1995
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  • "Myths, Dreams and Religion" by Joseph Campbell. Spring Pub. 1988
  • "Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit" by John and Muriel James. Penguin Books, 1991
  • "Peace Is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hahn. Bantam Books , 1991
  • "The Heroine's Journey" by Mureen Murdock. Random House, 1990
  • "The Hope For Healing Human Evil" by M. Scott Peck. Simon and Schuster, 1983
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A retired counselor, I am equal parts Techie and Artist. I am a Democrat who came to the Southwest to attend college. I married, had kids and have lived here all my adult life.