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Sunday, June 14, 2009

Letting Go Of Anger

Today's post is intended as background reading, or for self-help. Reading it may help you understand why people, who do not have or use these coping skills, can escalate all the way to clinical personality disorders and be capable committing hate crimes.

"The Steps for Letting Go of Anger"

  1. Awareness of your feelings and behaviors

  2. Taking responsibility for your emotions and responses

  3. Attitude -- will greatly influence your success of failure. If you have a negative attitude don't expect good things to happen.

  4. Self-talk. What you say about yourself to yourself will determine how you think and feel. it is a choice.

  5. Don't take responsibility for people and other things that you don't have control over.

  6. Develop resources and a support system that encourages the positive changes in you and in your life.

  7. Self-care behaviors. People who take care of themselves feel better about who they are, have more energy, and are more likely to be happy.

  8. Develop positive self-esteem.

  9. Develop positive alternative responses to counter the older anger responses.

  10. Practice rehearsing the new responses. Keep a journal to track and reinforce change. A journal will also clairfy issues which require further problem solving, or dysfunctional patterns which are keeping you from the progress and change you desire.

This list is taken from: Therapist's Guide to Substance Abuse Intervention, a book by Sharon L. Johnson, 2003 Academic Press. It was found on Google Books.

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References on Spirituality -- Favorites from my old collection

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  • "A World Waiting To Be Born: Civility Rediscovered" by M. Scott Peck. Simon and Schuster, 1993
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A retired counselor, I am equal parts Techie and Artist. I am a Democrat who came to the Southwest to attend college. I married, had kids and have lived here all my adult life.