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Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Safe discussion of your dreams

When to take care -
What signals can you see that indicate discussing your dream with this person, or in this setting, is too risky for you? And why would it not be safe? Is there enough time to truly finish such a conversation?

"Unsafe" or "risky" means that you will later regret having disclosed too much information about your dream/yourself. Your more personal information could be used against you, you become overly vulnerable, people will make unwarranted assumptions about what you have disclosed to them. You may become a topic of gossip.

It is safe to discuss your most personal dream information when boundaries are in good shape - if you are on a relatively level playing field with the person or persons, i.e. you are not in an overly power-down position with those others. If there is a track record of keeping confidences with previous personal discussions, you are probably safe. If the person is a good listener and does not always turn the conversation back to him/ or herself, you can have confidence.

The need for safety also depends on the nature of the dream you are thinking of disclosing. More general or innocuous dream material is safer to talk about than dreams that are very intimate, more scary, or more mysterious to you. Save such dream discussions for people with whom you know your feelings and vulnerabilities are safe.

One of the best places for dream work is in a healthy and well-moderated dream group. Talk to therapists, your Mental Health Association, your local United Way, or other information and referral resource to find out about such groups.

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A retired counselor, I am equal parts Techie and Artist. I am a Democrat who came to the Southwest to attend college. I married, had kids and have lived here all my adult life.